I'm so glad you are here! So, I started a secret blog about a year ago and it took me close to six months to actually post something and share it with my friends. It took almost another year, but now I've built up the confidence to make a website! I'm moving slow, but at least I'm moving forward, right? Since childhood I knew that I wanted to write and to help others. Somewhere along the way I lost the umpf to get up and go for it. This is my journey to find that umpf still deep inside of me... somewhere.
Why is it so many of us are hesitate to live out our dreams? I know I have been terrified of really going for it and held myself back more times than I would like to admit. So many of us live our lives in a box of what we think will make us acceptable to others. In The Four Agreements the process of replacing our childlike wonder and love of the world with the rules and beliefs of our society is referred to as the domestication of humans. I had never thought of this process as “domestication”, but as I contemplated this concept, it made more and more sense to me.
We are born knowing what to do, what we want, and with the confidence to pursue it relentlessly. We know for sure that we’re going to travel the world one day, be an artist, or visit space. But how many of us really live out those dreams? Many of us are stuck in small offices, earning much less than we know we’re worth, living for the weekend and our paychecks. What happens to us along the way?
Throughout our lives we are reprogrammed little by little by society, our families, our school systems, until we become shells of that once joyous kid with such ambitious dreams. Like wolves into dogs, we are trained to be obedient and seek the approval of others. We are told what to do, what to like, where to work, and how to spend the money we earn. None of this brings us happiness. We will spend our lives reaching for happiness and falling short until we can connect to what we have known all along inside. The only true happiness can be found in our hearts.
It is the child deep in our hearts that knows what we truly want. The child we feel light up inside of us when we do something we love. The child that sweeps us up in fits of laughter. And yes, the child that throws tantrums when it doesn't get its way. These tantrums will translate into illness, depression, jealousy, and many sleepless nights thinking about what really sets your heart on fire and how stuck you are in your current situation. Are we really trapped in our "adult" lives or is there a way out?
Of course there's a way out! All we really have to do is begin to listen more to our inner selves and less to outside sources. We must rewild ourselves by spending time in nature and learning to look again at the world with child-like wonder. It can be done by being present in the moment and not allowing ourselves to get swept away by the influence of others. It can be done by finally auditioning for that play or taking that awesome job across the country. We have to heal the wounds of our past and truly forgive, both others and ourselves. It can be done and it must in order to live a fulfilled life.
So, are you going to remain domesticated or reclaim your wildness? I think you know which one your heart truly desires, it just takes the courage to reach out for it.
Stay wild, my friends.