I love self-help books. Not just any old self help book, but the ones that promote spiritual growth. Self-help as a topic, whether it be published work or hiring a coach or therapist, is all too often be met with an eye roll. I was once too embarrassed to pick up one myself a few years ago. I didn't want to come off as not having it together, although I was floundering in the waters of life. I think it's unfortunate that many of us are too prideful to admit we need help, therapy, or advice from others in life. It's usually when we accept that maybe we don't have all the answers and reach out to others that life finally starts to unravel in our favor.
I remember when I first invested in my self growth, after all this is really what we are doing when we spend a little money in the self-help/spiritual growth department. I had graduated from college with blind optimism that my internships and work throughout college would help me easily land a great job in a new city. I was wrong... very wrong. Two months after graduating I ran out of money and had to move back in with my parents. Broke, jobless, and spirits crushed, I realized that I had some work to do. I buckled down, found a job near my hometown so I could save money and bought a few self-help books so I could develop some real world skills in the meantime.
I bought two books on the subject of female empowerment. Both had the same idea, stop being a doormat to others, one was a more in general read and the other focused more on self respect in relationships. I lacked love and confidence in myself and allowed others to walk all over me far too often. I was so self-conscious that someone would see these books and judge me that I literally hid them under my bed. How ridiculous is that? Hilariously enough, two months after I read, journaled, and really put the exercises and wisdom in these books into motion, I landed a job in a new city and met my incredible partner. I'm not saying the magic that I experienced will happen with every book or article on self development that exists. Not all self help books are created equal, I have had quite a few that didn't resonate with me at all, but some have indeed changed my life forever.
Books aren't the only means of gathering helpful advice in life, but they are much more helpful than many of us realize. I have always loved to research and discover new ideas. The thought of constantly transforming and bettering myself has always been a strong interest, secret as it was for many years. Through my research and conversations with others, I am often given life changing advice. I'm the type of person that must hear this advice, think about it, hear it again, read about it, then somewhere along the way it finally clicks. Many times when it finally clicks I realize that deep down, on a soul level, I knew these truths all along. It just takes some digging to finally find its place in my heart and mind.
Magic happens in life when we finally get over our shit and realize that there is work that must be done. We are never perfect and improvements are always needed. The book I'm now reading suggests viewing ourselves as a divine vessel that needs some remodeling and improvements. Although we can admire and be pretty damn proud of our vessels and the home improvements made so far, if we get lazy some cobwebs might start to form up in the corners before we know it.
Life is our classroom and there are new lessons assigned on the board every day. When we are in school and setting out to learn a new subject, we will waste no expense of buying the right textbook or hiring a tutor, just check the ridiculous prices of college text books are these days. Why are we so embarrassed to accept help in life? If hiring a coach, therapist or purchasing a book that resonates with us can help move us along towards our goals, why not invest the same in ourselves as we do in education? Sure, the right degree can help us land the job, but an awesome coach or finally sorting out those mental blocks can also help to advance us in life.
This is one of the main reasons I have created this blog. I’m sharing the advice with you that I heard 100 plus times and usually have to figure it out the hard way. My hope is that someone reading this will either hear my advice that can be of use in their own life or maybe relate to my stubbornness. I am in no way perfect or have everything figured out, but I finally accepted that life is a journey filled with opportunities to learn and grow. Don't be too ashamed or stubborn to reach out for help in your journey. Money spent on coaching, therapy, or a self-help book or two is money that will come back tenfold in happiness and expansion. The magic is waiting for you, just reach out your hand.
I may do an upcoming post of my favorite blogs, websites, and books that inspired me and changed my life. I hope everyone has a wonderful and magical week. See you Thursday over on my YouTube channel!