As the aftermath of Jonas still grips the eastern coast of the United States I, like many of my fellow east coasters, have been stuck in my house for four days now, going on five. Snow days are fun for the first few days. The snow makes everything quiet and we can easily catch up on our sleep or episodes of the new show we are streaming, but after a few days the experience begins to cause a touch of cabin fever. The thought that even if I wanted to get in my car and go, there is a high likelihood that I wouldn't even make it past my block makes me very nervous.
I was very lucky to have electricity and a warm place to lay my head through this storm. My family and I were both terrified at the thought of losing power during this storm, as my neighborhood is known to do even after a quick thunderstorm. I'm very grateful of that, but my car remains buried and my neighborhood unplowed. Boo.
Being stuck inside for the past few days has given me a lot of time to work on my self-care. I've meditated daily, read a beautiful book I recently picked up (Light Is the New Black. Check it out if you enjoy spiritual reads), and even scrubbed my entire house. A tidy house and the act of cleaning helps clear my head and gives me a sense of peace, so it applies. It's been a productive few days.
Something that is often mentioned in motivational and spiritual books are the words of Jim Rhon, we are the average of the five people of which we spend the most time. If we surround ourselves with people who put us down or make us feel bad, we are likely to feel down most of the time and may even do this to others. Negative people like to pull people down just as positive people like to build others up. It's very important to surround ourselves with people who are striving towards their dreams and supportive of ours.
Something that I think is overlooked at times is how this applies to other parts of our lives. What we surround ourselves with affects us much more than we realize. The types of music, television, even the state of our house can greatly influence how we feel about ourselves and our world. Watching television shows that focus on the absurd beauty standards will often create a sense of not being good or attractive enough. Listening to music about partying, the degradation of women, and spending money frivolously can put toxicity into our lives whether we are conscious of this or not.
I remember about a year ago a song by Pitbull where he sings about using his rent money to party. I was seriously appalled that this type of song would be so well-loved, I heard it everywhere. Every time I heard him talk about this epic night being the "time of his life" I shook my head in disbelief. Sure it was meant to be lighthearted, but what kind of message is this to put out into the world. If someone is at a point in their life that spending rent money on a night of partying without considering the consequences, there is a serious problem. I come from an area where drug and alcohol abuse is an epidemic and this type of mentality is common. It was very upsetting to hear it celebrated in a song blared in clubs and on the radio everywhere.
Not only is the music we listen to important, but also our environments. This both includes our homes and where we work. If our homes are chaotic, this can often create a sense of chaos in our lives. If our workplace is toxic, it's very likely this will seep into our personal lives. It is easier said than done to immediately remove ourselves from environments that are bringing us down. If we are in a lease with a bad roommates or struggling in our jobs, it can spawn feelings of being stuck and hopelessness.
We are never as stuck as we feel and there are small steps we can make to improve the situation when we realize something is pulling us down. If your friends make you feel bad, address it with them and if it that doesn't change anything, you're honestly better off without them. If your roommate is a slob, make a safe place to retreat to in your home that brings happiness and peace. Find a way, any way, to surround yourself in love, support, and positivity even if it only comes from yourself for now.
Getting out of toxic friendships, jobs, or living situations can be scary. Feeling comfortable and fearing changes is one of the biggest reasons people accept less in their life. Know that as you follow what makes you happy and what brings light into your life, your life will only improve. It may be hard at first, but what great experience isn't? Thailand was the most beautiful, incredible, life changing country I have ever visited, but I still had to travel over 24 hours, very unpleasant hours, to get there. Don't let the small bumps in life keep you in crappy situations. Be your best friend, love and support yourself fiercely.
Have a wonderful week everyone. I love you all! Sending love and light your way. See you Thursday on my YouTube channel.