A problem I experience often in life and I feel as though others do too is the feeling of not being worthy of good things. Have you ever had a week where things just seemed to happen magically for you and instead of celebrating, you were left anxious and wondering when everything would come crashing down? Have you ever caught yourself saying aloud that good things just don't happen to you? Or that you're just by nature an unlucky person, doomed to a lifetime of disappointment? I'm so guilty of this.
Why do we so often chose to focus on the negative in life? I can receive ten wonderful, uplifting compliments and one backhanded comment and I will choose the focus all of my time and energy on that one negative happening ... sometimes even for years. I still remember a girl who told me in fifth grade that my cowlick made me look like I had a bald spot. Can you imagine? After all the compliments I have gotten on my hair over the years I still worry, 16 years later, that I look like a I have a bald spot every time I look in the mirror. It's absurd, but it's true.
Not only does this type of thinking leave us feeling miserable and down about the world in general, but it also severely hinders our progress in life. We are less motivated and unlikely to take chances on what could be great things in our life when we are convinced that nothing works out in our favor every free minute of our day. Why bother, after all? We set ourselves up for failure and disappointment not by anything other than our feelings towards ourselves.
A few years ago The Secret came out and suddenly everyone was walking about the Law of Attraction. Today there are LoA gurus all over the internet promising to help each and every one of us bring all of our wildest dreams into reality. Now, it is true that we can bring what we want into existence, but it doesn'trequire any magic or expert advice from a guru. In fact, we've done it since we stepped onto this world. What we focus on with our emotions and energy, we attract into our lives.
Our words and thoughts are powerful. If we spend our time focused on the negative things in our life, we create a cloud that follows us around. You see this often with people who focus on their unlucky financial situations or love lives. If we constantly tell ourselves and anyone that will listen about how broke, single, or unhappy we are, we send those vibes out to the universe and bring in more. The universe hears "I want more bad, send it this way, please!"
The universe runs on vibrations. When we beat ourselves up we are literally surrounding ourselves in a dark cloud of bad energy. Other people can feel it too. This is why miserable people stuck in their own clouds prefer the company of the same. Have you ever been in a sour, poor me, mood and ran into someone excited about life? We immediately become annoyed and want them away from our pity party. This has nothing to do with them, but everything to do with our mindset.
This is coming from someone who has experienced both side of the coin. I am a chipper, excited about life, glass is half full kind of girl when I'm being my natural self. After years with depression, I became the opposite and started to feel comfortable in my sadness. I mocked others that were happy and clung to my cloud tightly. Under all the eye rolling, however, I was absolutely miserable. When I finally admitted that I didn't want to live that way anymore, I began working to roundhouse that dark cloud out of my way. It took a lot of time and effort, sure, but I'm really happy living in the sunshine now.
I'm still a very self-conscious, anxious person and it is easy for me to fall back into old habits of being straight up mean to myself. The biggest difference in me today and me two years ago is that I recognize now that life doesn't have to be that way. I'm able to catch when I'm being mean or self-destructive and stop in my tracks. It takes time and practice, but it's the greatest journey of your life.
A trick recently taught to me by a spiritually inclined, beautiful soul has left me in awe of the unlimited power of my thoughts. She encouraged me to notice when I was having self doubts and instead say aloud, " I'm so grateful for _____." For instance if feeling down about your financial situation, say to yourself, " I'm so grateful for the unlimited financial abundance that is on its way to me now." Or if down and out about your love life, "I'm so grateful that someone perfect for me exists and is on their way to me now." It's a seriously life changing practice.
We have to give up our worries to the universe and trust that what is meant for us is on its way. It may not come in the exact shape or way that we expect, but that's because it's better than we could even imagine. Life can be magical or it can be a suck fest, it is entirely up to us. Start climbing out of the darkness today with a little trust that good things will come and endless gratitude for when it arrives. TRUST ME, life will never be the same.
See ya next week! Sending love and light to everyone that may be experiencing some darkness this week. You're not alone and life is far too beautiful to sit in the dark, I promise.